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2012-02-01T19:04:00.000-08:00

Its all about Marriage.

If you're intending to get married soon, this post might be useful for you.
If you're reading for the sake of reading it, this post might seems boring to you.

If you're married, this post might make you recall the moments when you're planning for a marriage.

Before i begins, i'll want to let you know that if you think marriage is only about both you and your partner, then you're WRONG.

I used to have that thinking too. But in the process of planning, i've realized the sentence is just bullshit. Yes, its gonna be your partner and your wedding but hey, in many other ways, you've to stick to what the elderly said.

One word, TRADITIONAL.

Yes, im not that pure traditional. Certain things of it i do believe and i will follow. But of course, many of it, i've disapproved.

If you're gonna be stubborn thinking that its all about your partner and you, you wont be happy with your planning and probably the outcome too.

1. MONEY

If you've no money, forget about getting married. Of course if you're or your partner is from a well-to-do family, life will be easier for both of you. If not, you'll be struggling worse than those earthworms.

EVERYTHING IS ABOUT MONEY!

EVERYTHING NEEDS MONEY!

Yeap. Every decision you've chose, you've to make a deposit. Eg: invitation cards, wedding banquet, ROM, gowns, photographers, cars and more.

Usually for renting of gowns and suits and wedding car, they will need S$500 - S$800 deposit. Of course its refundable but that's the amount excluding the rental of it. As for the rest of the deposits, of course its non-refundable as its part of the payment.

So dont forget, having a budget is very important. So you can work within it and not exceeding it.

2. SUPPORTIVE FAMILY MEMBERS

Yes, having supportive family members will make your life better too! I mean in terms of planning. Im thankful to have them, constantly reminding me about my bad habits, helping me in many other ways too! Of course, in terms of financial. Families are the greatest love that you can ever had.

Before planning, both have to announce to the parents about it. Just in case if there's any objections or so.

Its normal for couples to have big fights during the process of planning and discussions. Yes, it happens to me. It can be a daily thing too! Of course, it can be really tiring and stressful. Many times when we quarreled, my parents will be there to pull us up again. There are such times when you really feel like giving up and wanna cancel everything. So i always tell myself that since i've come that far, i've overcome so many obstacles, this time i can overcome it too.

As for me, its double stressful cause i've to worried about my school event too. Brokedown once infront of HG and i felt like as if im a crazy woman. I cant wait for all of it to end.

3. EGO

At this point of time, you've to learn to let down your ego. Yes! It kinda kills me because i've a big egoistic husband-to-be and i've to always give in! I believe i've said more than 20 times to HG, telling him to loosen his ego. It can be really difficult to work with such people because they're too self-centered. They do what they likes, they want what they want etc. When its the other way round, and they disagree with your suggestion, they will want you to follow their suggestion instead. Thats when argument begins.

Usually human with big ego, they wont give in. Be it you're the wife or whoever. They wont means they wont. Even if they do, you can tell from their expression and tone that they give in unwillingly.

Yes, sometimes i feel like a man when im a woman. Having to give in and suck up all these. But thinking of the future, i've no choice but to start adapt to it. Of course, meanwhile to constantly remind HG to loosen up his ego.

4. DREAM WEDDING

Im sure everyone have their dream wedding ideas especially for women. I've mine too! But of course, afterall its still a Dream Wedding :) Its hard to make it comes true unless you're born to be rich or your dream wedding is a simple one.

Usually men will follow their women's ideas due to the women's dream weddings etc. If a man isnt willing to TRY to fulfill your dream wedding or TRY to make it similar to it, maybe you've to reconsider. Haha! Just saying. Well, i think men should follow or TRY to make it similar to the dream wedding as the women willing and agreed to get tied down with the men. Its like giving their entire life to their partners.

Why i say that if the guy dont even wanna try, have to reconsider because in future, there may be arguments about disagreeing each others ideas, opinions etc. Which means, even if you've a Dream House in mind, be it is the design or layout, you've no choice but to follow your man's words. Some elderly called it as the 'Big Man'.

At this point, its also the chance where both can share their dream weddings or their ideas. By writing it down would be better. Such as decide on the location, type of car, theme and more. It's the first step in planning for your marriage. It can be really fun and sweet while sharing the dream weddings and ideas!

Dont forget to be realistic and work within your budget!

5. RESEARCH

Be prepared to do many research! I've been googling and questioning many people regarding marriage! Such as how to set appointment to go ROM, banquet pricing, hotel availability, package pricing etc.

Most people only tell you things like "Oh! The XXXX hotel, 1 table only costs like $800+". I mean half information. What you need is a detailed one!

After doing much research, 1 table for wedding banquet in those 'not so high class' hotels cost about S$938 ++ to $988++. YES! EXPENSIVE right?!?!?! Hotels like M hotel, Hotel Re! etc. Can you imagine a table at Fullerton?! It costs about $1,200++ for a table! That's why i said, have to be realistic.

We flipped the wedding magazine that printed out in Year 2010 to check the banquet pricing. In that year, a table in Fullerton costs $958++! Look at the big different after 2 years?! Now you know why people always say getting married isnt cheap and easy. After adding up the ++, your eyes from o.o to O.O

For photographer(s) or videographer(s), it depends who you approach, which company you choose, how nice you want your pictures to be etc. Market price for professional photographers is between S$1,500 to S$3,000. For videographer(s), probably between $800 - $2,500?

If you're deciding to get them through studio, usually it comes with a package which include videography and photoshoots. It can be way cheaper than engaging 1 videographer and another photographer separately. As for mine, we didnt engage videographer as my brother can do the job. So we only get HG's ex-school photography lecturer to take for us. One full day + printing of pictures + mini album + edit = S$2,500. Of course we've a special price for it :p Take a look at his website here.

6. CALLING

Calling will be part of your life too! You will need to call as much as those research that you've done. Calling is the fastest way to get response or the answers that you want. You need to call the hotel to check on availability, call to inquire about the packages etc. Its one way to keep in contact with the salesperson too. It will be better if you save all the numbers in your phone.

7. E-mail

Make sure you've an email account for them to send them invoices or contracts. Yeap! Be environmental friendly. Haha! Most hotels now will email the contract rather than getting couples down so often. You may need an email just in case the company that gonna do the invitation cards for you may need to email you a draft copy of it. Which also means that you've to check you inbox regularly too.

8. DISCUSSIONS

As i've mentioned earlier that marriage is not only about both the wedding couple but everyone, so after doing research and sharing of ideas, its time for a discussion with the family members. Its time to ask for opinions and suggestions. Its a form of respect too. You can choose not to discuss it but be sure that at the end of it, no objection or disagreement popping out.

Sharing it with them can also gives you a better idea on how to make it better within the budget, look at the needs and not wants etc. Things like what to include in the invitation cards and what to buy before wedding etc, we've to approach the elder ones as they've been through it before. For most parents, they will want the invitation cards to be in english and chinese.

Things like how to address your relatives, what to write and all, have to consult your parents too. For my parents, they're not that traditional so its alright. But i didnt expect HG's side to have traditional relatives. I mean, PURE ones! So always remember to ask whether your partner's sides, are they PURE traditional or not.

That was one of our problem and a careless mistake. The particular relative kept repeating to us about how we should address them when we already gave them the card. Whats the point of repeating times when they dont need us to re-write and when we had already written it?! You know i dislike naggy people. Plus dislike rich ones being so action too. Rich + naggy + PURE traditional = totally pissed me off! Kept my cool and im not willing to help them to pass down the China traditional way of addressing people on a wedding card.

9. ON-SITE

After discussions, head down to the various locations to take a look at the surrounding, packages available, take notice of the customer service etc. Take a look a few bridal shops before deciding the package to take and making of payments. I've heard many saying Tanjong Pagar is a good place as there are many bridal shops there. The more shops you visit, the harder you gonna decide which to go. Haha! Do remember to take a look at their gowns and suits. Choose gowns which you like it cause its only happens ONCE in your lifetime!

Dont get scammed. All bridal shops sure have different packages. So ask for it and look whats included and the price too. I will include mine after the wedding :)

Same as hotels too. Most hotels have packages such as themed wedding, in buffet style or banquet etc. Pricing rates im not sure as somehow you can change a few thingy in it or even customize your own package too.

10. PAYMENT

Most places would prefer credit cards rather than cash as it can be dangerous. Can you imagine taking thousands with you from one place to another place? Haha! Most of it will split into few times of payment. Especially banquet. Can be really troublesome cause have to head down few times. Dont forget to extend your card limit too!

Do remember that Once you've paid the deposits, they're non-refundable even if you wanna cancel it! So decide probably before making payment.

11. ACCOUNTS

Always keep all the contracts, receipts and invoices in a folder! Thats when you became an accountant. Haha! Calculating how much you have spent, how much left, when to make another payment etc. Dont forget about your budget!

12. ORGANIZER

Its best to have an organizer with you! Note down all the important dates like making payments, fitting for gowns/suits, food-tasting, photoshoot etc. Organizer can be really helpful! Dont buy it and let it rot. Dont do the same as HG -.-

I would use a different color of highlighter for personal matters, school matters and wedding. Its easier for me to differentiate it too.

13. COLLECTION

Collection of invitation cards must be done 2 months before your wedding! You've to write in the names, either mail it out or hands deliver. Also, must give a month before the day for RSVP! Yeap!

Collection of rings to be collected few days before your ROM.

Collection of ROM certificate - 1 week before the date.

Collection of wedding car to be the day before. Most people will get their cars decorated the day before too! Do park in multi-storeys carpark or sheltered carpark.

Collection of gowns and suits also the day before.

Collection of bouquet is usually the day before too. Try to keep it at a cooling place.

These are some of the things that i can think of. Will add on if there's more! Will definitely give the youngsters a better idea of planning a marriage, getting married and after married. Haha!

2012-01-23T13:00:00.000-08:00

Happy Dragon Year!

Woke up early to granny's house to have my favorite mee hoon before going over to my father's side.

Grandpa & grandma <3

Taken @ Grandparents' house.

Off to Redhill!

Cousins

Singapore Girls' Generation.

Family portrait

2012-01-20T12:31:00.000-08:00

Overdue pictures

Ramen Champion. Finally we managed to tried all the stalls except for the dry ramen stall.
(Taken in December 2011)

Remember i mentioned about getting my nails done before wedding photoshoot? Yea, The Good Earth Nail Spa. I've yet to remove them till now!

Dinner @ Manhattan after manicure.

Cousin took this for us :)
Naked fat face of me.

2012-01-19T21:14:00.000-08:00

Preparation.

Few weeks back bought a scrapbook kit and wedding certificate holder from Precious Moments. The scrapbook kit comes in 3 types, Wedding, Sweet memories and Baby. Its exactly like those scrapbook kits where you can get it from Popular Bookstore & paper market for like S$50? I got mine for $39.90 only!

The wedding certificate holder isnt light like it looks like it. Haha! If im not wrong, should be S$39.90 or $49.90.

Not forgetting the soft toys to be tied infront of the wedding car. People who know me should be able to guess it right hur? ;) Haha! I've been searching for it for a longgggggggg time! Even those Singaporeans that do sell it, it costs about S$150! *faints* As usual, im a good and skillful blog-shopper. I got mine from Hong Kong for S$79 only! I mean for a pair yea ;)

YES! Stitch and Angel! ^^
The wedding gown look similar to mine too anyway. Haha! So yea, expected it right? I can hear people saying "Stitch again -.-". HAHAHA! Oh! Pardon for the pictures. I've been neglecting the DSLR cause have to take up SD memory card, upload the huge files then edit. Uploading into the lappy takes quite some time too. But i guess that day the photographer should be will take a clear shot of it ;)

Next, self-designed ROM invitation card by HG! Click on it to view his portfolio! Of course, he havent been updating it. Haha! He went to get it printed so yea. As usual, im lazy to use DSLR. The day when im not lazy, im will re-take shots of it ^^

As for our wedding cards, we got it from T-dragon. Well, if your hotel recommend you there to get it done, PLEASE dont! We kinda got scammed due to the pricing for the printing. HG found the cheapest printing "factory" online and then realized T-dragon actually send in orders to them. Another word, Partnership. T-dragon really suck your money -.-

The front cartoons' pose looks familiar yea?

Hehe ^^

For the details, we chose a unique template and not those common ones that comes without any icons. Common ones look rather boring so we chose something cute. Hahaha! Since our theme is white and gold, so we chose gold printing too.

So thats about it ;) More to come! Stay tune!

2012-01-18T21:35:00.000-08:00

A woman-soon-to-be.

Cant wait for this week to end. No idea why this year i cant feel the Chinese New Year mood though i went Chinatown already. Each year is getting more and more moodless. Probably due to the weather, school work and personal matters.

Everyday i've new worries to face and to handle. Am worried about not reaching 80 pax for my school event. 'Prease' help to purchase the tickets guys! We've cut down 10 bucks from the usual price already. *puppy eyes*

Less than 3 months, i will be graduating. Kinda dislike it cause have to make wise decision like which path to take, where to go etc. So afraid to make wrong decision.

Just a short update here. Will update more after this Friday :)

Oh, if you're looking for a freelance graphic designer to design for your posters, brochures, vouchers, namecards, menu, website panels, logos, blogshops, editing pictures, invitation cards' designs etc, do let me know! Corporate works are welcome too :D

If any of your friends, relatives or you yourself wanna buy/sell house, rent a room, rent out your house/rooms, buy/sell your workplace etc, let me know too! ;)

E-mail me : csx.j@hotmail.sg
Subject: Freelance graphic designer or Looking for an agent...

Yeap! ^^

2012-01-09T21:00:00.000-08:00

Wedding Photoshoot.

So out of 287 pictures taken, we must choose 25 pictures to be printed on the album. Of course we had a hard time choosing them. Sadly, we have to edit the soft-copies ourselves. Hoping to get the disc with all 287 pictures that we took. But it cost S$800! Well, the usual price is supposed to be 2k.

Just some basic edits so dont expect the pictures to be perfect. Will re-edit when im using my old lappy. Im still unfamiliar with Photoshop. Prefer Photoscape more. I'm not wearing heels in all the photos. Since it was an outdoor shoot, they suggested i should wear a pair of comfy shoes. That was why im slightly shorter than HG. Hahaha!

So after much edits, here are the pictures :)
Note: View more pictures in my Facebook album.

Thats all ;)

2012-01-08T22:22:00.000-08:00

Google search engine

Have you ever try searching your name? I bet most of us do! Haha! So do i ;)

Android Cellphones - Games? I dont see that blog post is related to the article or android phones.

Trading method?!?! Why the same post again?

Found my pic in a guy's wordpress, Hirato Shu -.-

The Whuffie Bank? Since when Twitter auto "register" me in the whatever Whuffie bank?

One of the article in some other languages. Came across a few and i dont understand so yea.

Can anyone tell me why are all using the same blog post?! Hahaha! Try searching yours ;)

2012-01-06T23:13:00.000-08:00

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2012-01-05T21:55:00.000-08:00

Random post.

Decided to write a random post. Be it some past events or overdue pictures :) Im trying to get back to my blogging life ^^

Got my nails done at The Good Earth Nail Spa which is located at Plaza Singapura, Level 2. Right beside Marks and Spencer :) The price is rather similar to any other nails shop. I often do it at Bugis street or Jean Yip which cost me about $130 - $170. Usually havent a week, the crystals will dropped or nail polish peel off.

Thanks to HG who recommended me that place! Let them know your budget and roughly the type of design you want and they will work within your budget ^^ I've got Lin who is able to work within my budget of $150 :) With 2 acrylic nails (cause of my broken thumbnails) and classic mani + design + 3D flowers + crystals only $149! Until now, none of it drop off or peel off ^^ Worth it! Do make an appointment before heading down ;) Luckily my 3 hours are worth it! Haha! + HG's 3 hours too! I think its sweet when guys wait for their girls to get their nails done.

Hopefully he can remain to be that sweet or to be sweeter ^^

Family Photoshoot :) Shall post only 3 pictures that are taken together with my siblings. View the rest in my Facebook album!

Havent been meeting up with Ashley for a long long long time! Hopefully his attachment will be over soon so we can bully each other during school days! Hahaha! Cant wait to meet him tomorrow! Much misses :)

Personal problems, dont wish to think about it now. The only one who can help is God. Hope to see the light soon! Few more months and im graduating soon. Time flies... another thing to worry about is my project event. Hopefully sponsors reply me soon and the event to be a successful one! Worries and worries :( So not looking forward to March, final report and presentation to get it done! Sigh. Thats life yea?

Lastly, i've 1 brand new authentic 3D Stitch Iphone 4 cover selling at S$35 which include normal postage :)

Outside may sell at $20 or even lesser because they're selling non-authentic ones. Am sure mine is cause i've the Disney logo, sticker and its printed in the cover too. Its totally BRAND NEW! Contact me through Facebook or email me at csx.j@hotmail.sg with the subject: Stitch 3D Cover. Or Formspring me ;) Do help me to spread around. Thank you ;)

2012-01-03T23:28:00.000-08:00

Wedding Photoshoot.

(Behind the scene)

We got mixed up of the timing so ended up reaching E-Bridal at 10am. We slacked till 11am and finally the makeup artist came. Got changed and first makeup and hairdo done! Kinda heartpain to see my hair being "tortured". Lol! As in the hairspray etc. I've already little hair so to me, my hair is very precious. Haha! Due to the nice weather, we intended to go for outdoor shoot at Botanic Garden, Fort Canning then Sentosa :)

Ready, set, GO!

In the car on the way to Sentosa. My curls disappearing ;(

Taken by HG :)

Which also the first time that HG kept praising me non-stop. *Shy* He hardly praise me like "you look beautiful" or "you're pretty".

About 2.30pm reached the bridal shop. HG packed Indo Fried Rice and we shared. Shag to the maximum! The weather wasn't nice to us. A moment sunny yet another moment rainy. After lunch, rushed for the indoor shoot. So we started with the evening gown.

Last costume shoot, Japanese!

Cant wait for the 25 pictures to be ready! Yeappppp! Hopefully to get the disc with all our pictures soon too!